In 2020, while the world was busy imploding, two old Shrews got together and decided to talk about changing everything. And we recorded it. After a wildly successful ride, with unexpected downloads and even a few haters (that’s when you know you’re really doing something right, right?) Jay’s personal life hit a speed-bump then Jen gave up entrepreneurship and got a really real *gasp* job. Yes, her potential boss found these episodes. Yes, she still got the job. However, the cackling still live on all the poddy platforms and we still stand by most of the concepts we discussed then. It was a bit of a golden time in our lives, and friendship, and this podcast is testament to that.
Episode 5 – What’s In A Name? Is Taking Your Husband’s Last Name Unfeminist?
Say my name, say my name!
Yes, we know Unfeminist isn’t a word. We’re breaking the rules.
We’re also showing you a little of what it’s really like to record a podcast when kids – young and old – are home due to COVID-19. Water bottles are stolen, and 19-year-olds are stopped from making life-saving coffee.
In between, we’re discussing why we change our last names when we marry. How it started, why we do it, and how it’s all the bloody patriarchy.
Get Shrews In Your Ears:
Thank you to the following sources we’ve used to fact-check, investigate, and back up our claims to make this episode.
Jennifer Zeven: What’s In A Name?
Stephanie Reid: The History Behind Maiden vs. Married Names
Catherine Allgor: Coverture: The Word You Probably Don’t Know But Should
Lisa Featherstone: Rape in Marriage: Why Was It So Hard To Criminalise Sexual Violence?
The Cackle Of Sisterhood
It’s been at least a couple of years since Jay and Jen’s friendship was forged by a mutual fiery love of feminism and the power of wordsmithery. It took a global pandemic and things generally going to hell in a handbasket for them to throw all the right ingredients into a pot and birth the Shrews Untamed podcast.
When they’re not yelling, “I know, RIGHT?” at each other on FB Messenger, Jay is an award-winning copywriter and copy coach and Jen is an author with her first book in the works. They are also mothers, sisters, daughters, and both fans of the C word.
Listen Via These Apps
Our theme music is Celtic Impulse by Kevin MacLeod
Disclaimer on historical and literary references, and views expressed on Shrews Untamed
Unless we say otherwise, the history sources Jay and Jen mention on Shrews Untamed are from the dominant Western scholarly tradition. (That means Western history and literature was written by white men, for white men, and about white men – and a few very ‘good’ and very ‘bad’ women.) Through Feminist scholarship, the achievements, stories, and voices of women are slowly being ressurected from the past; some are lost forever.
We acknowledge that for First Nation women and Women of Colour, the history books have been closed for much longer, and the pursuit of Herstory has not been equitable, or free of Western/colonial bias.
Unless we say otherwise, most of the literary references are made to Western literature. Western literature, poetry, and artistic tradition are all filled with the names, images, and stories of women – and of course, Western patriarchal bias which has dictated our history bleeds into literature and the arts. Whether writing based on Near-Eastern historical figures like Cleopatra, the Virgin Mary, and including Western fictional characters like our dear Kate from Shakespeare’s The Taming of the Shrew – each were envisioned and written by white men, and shown as white women, or fetishised exotics, for a largely white male audience.
The literary, cultural and artistic traditions, as well as current views of First Nation women and Women of Colour, or any non-binary person, should be told by people who have with lived that experience and/or tradition. And they are.
As we say in the outro, all opinions on content expressed on Shrews Untamed are our own. Jay and Jen are both white, CIS-het women; we can only speak with authenticity of our own white, CIS-het experience of Western culture and our world, and we do so without apology.
Acknowledgement of Country
Jay and Jen from Shrews Untamed would like to acknowledge the land of the Karuna and Noongar people. We pay respect to elders past, present and emerging, and acknowledge the cost that has come with the uneasy sharing of this land; land which was taken. We express hope that we can move to a place of justice and equity together.
Curious people are the best kind
so ask me the things
© 2015 - 2022 Jay Crisp Crow + Crisp Copy ™️
Parts of this website do contain affiliate links because recurring income is extraordinarily smart
Jay Crisp Crow acknowledges the Whadjuk people of the Noongar Nation as the custodians of the majestic lands where Jay Crisp Crow is based. This acknowledgment extends not only to the traditional and ongoing custodianship but also extends to recognise the deep and eternal spiritual connection that the Whadjuk people have with the land. Jay Crisp Crow acknowledges that sovereignty has never been ceded. That this place always was, and always will be Whadjuk land. Jay Crisp Crow wishes to pay respect to the Whadjuk Elders of the past and present day. Like the beautiful trees of the Parkerville area, Jay Crisp Crow acknowledges that the Whadjuk people and Whadjuk culture are deeply rooted here and will forever be connected to this land. - This acknowledgement was written for Jay Crisp Crow, Crisp Copy by Louise O'Reilly.