Episode 5 – What’s In A Name? Is Taking Your Husband’s Last Name Unfeminist?
Say my name, say my name!
Yes, we know Unfeminist isn’t a word. We’re breaking the rules.
We’re also showing you a little of what it’s really like to record a podcast when kids – young and old – are home due to COVID-19. Water bottles are stolen, and 19-year-olds are stopped from making life-saving coffee.
In between, we’re discussing why we change our last names when we marry. How it started, why we do it, and how it’s all the bloody patriarchy.
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Thank you to the following sources we’ve used to fact-check, investigate, and back up our claims to make this episode.
Jennifer Zeven: What’s In A Name?
Stephanie Reid: The History Behind Maiden vs. Married Names
Catherine Allgor: Coverture: The Word You Probably Don’t Know But Should
Lisa Featherstone: Rape in Marriage: Why Was It So Hard To Criminalise Sexual Violence?
The Cackle Of Sisterhood
It’s been at least a couple of years since Jay and Jen’s friendship was forged by a mutual fiery love of feminism and the power of wordsmithery. It took a global pandemic and things generally going to hell in a handbasket for them to throw all the right ingredients into a pot and birth the Shrews Untamed podcast.
When they’re not yelling, “I know, RIGHT?” at each other on FB Messenger, Jay is an award-winning copywriter and copy coach and Jen is an author with her first book in the works. They are also mothers, sisters, daughters, and both fans of the C word.
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Disclaimer on historical and literary references, and views expressed on Shrews Untamed
Unless we say otherwise, the history sources Jay and Jen mention on Shrews Untamed are from the dominant Western scholarly tradition. (That means Western history and literature was written by white men, for white men, and about white men – and a few very ‘good’ and very ‘bad’ women.) Through Feminist scholarship, the achievements, stories, and voices of women are slowly being ressurected from the past; some are lost forever.
We acknowledge that for First Nation women and Women of Colour, the history books have been closed for much longer, and the pursuit of Herstory has not been equitable, or free of Western/colonial bias.
Unless we say otherwise, most of the literary references are made to Western literature. Western literature, poetry, and artistic tradition are all filled with the names, images, and stories of women – and of course, Western patriarchal bias which has dictated our history bleeds into literature and the arts. Whether writing based on Near-Eastern historical figures like Cleopatra, the Virgin Mary, and including Western fictional characters like our dear Kate from Shakespeare’s The Taming of the Shrew – each were envisioned and written by white men, and shown as white women, or fetishised exotics, for a largely white male audience.
The literary, cultural and artistic traditions, as well as current views of First Nation women and Women of Colour, or any non-binary person, should be told by people who have with lived that experience and/or tradition. And they are.
As we say in the outro, all opinions on content expressed on Shrews Untamed are our own. Jay and Jen are both white, CIS-het women; we can only speak with authenticity of our own white, CIS-het experience of Western culture and our world, and we do so without apology.
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